"And then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom"

~ Anais Nin

Motivational quotes are like opinions on the internet--they're everywhere. 

But has a quote ever changed your life?

Well, one changed mine. 


Although it was 18 years ago, I remember the moment as if it took place five minutes ago. I stood in my home library, flipping through the pages of a vintage set of diaries authored by Anais Nin

I bought the set simply because the books were weathered, the pages old and brown, and I love the look and feel of old books. 

So there I stood flipping through the pages when my eyes landed on the first sentence of a paragraph halfway down the page… 

“And then the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom."

I felt as if my heart stopped beating. 

And for a moment, I stopped breathing. 

I read the line again, taking in each word, one at a time. 

The meaning of these words, grouped together so eloquently, vibrated so deep within my soul I felt them ripple throughout my entire being. 

Something within me awakened.

I had been tight in a bud. 

My parents’ narrow view about career paths, and a strict Christian upbringing had imposed so many limitations, built so many shatterproof ceilings, and imprisoned me within the confines of a narrow, tight box. I'd never seen this so clearly.

Yes! Being tight in a bud was painful! 

What if I took the risk to blossom?


Although the path hasn't been straightforward or easy, I’ve blossomed since that day both as a woman, and by following the calling of my inner creative feminine, also as an entrepreneur. 

I've had to stretch beyond my comfort zone. Stumble. Fall. Get back up again and again. But just like flowers need the rain to grow, I learned to use every challenge, and there were many, as opportunities to spring forward faster. The rewards have far surpassed anything I ever imagined I’d achieve.

I’ve authored two books to date, achieved numerous certifications, grown a multiple-six figure business, started a new journey in a PhD program—and I now specialize in transforming other women’s lives. 


According to a research study, women, despite our gains, are less happy, and less confident today than our predecessors in 1972.

Another study points out that 70% of girls feel they are "not enough" and it doesn't get better as we mature. 80% of women feel they are "not enough."

In our personal lives, a lack of confidence leads us to diminish our personal power by:

  • people pleasing
  • serving the needs of others at the expense of our own
  • and suppressing our identities as we reach for the unattainable: the "perfect mother," "perfect daughter," or "perfect wife"

In our careers, a lack of confidence leads us to diminish our personal power by:

  • tolerating jobs we don't enjoy
  • doing work in a way that runs contrary to our natural gifts
  • waiting to pursue promotions until we feel we meet 100% of the requirements (men are happy to pursue promotions when they feel they have 60% of the requirements)
  • tolerating toxic environments
  • hesitating to speak up and share new ideas, aka communicating our leadership potential


The good news is confidence CAN be developed. 

The good news is we are each, all of us, born with SoulSeeds--a beautiful mosaic of talents, abilities and qualities that illuminate a unique and specific path for us--one that will enable us to fulfill our SoulPurpose if we connect and align with it.  

As a Confidence Coach, I empower professional and entrepreneurial-minded women to shed the hidden layers of deep influence others have had on them way down at the subconscious level so they can free themselves from the opinions of others, reconnect with their true SoulSeeds, and achieve greater confidence, fulfillment, abundance and flow.


Richard Petty, a psychology professor at Ohio State University says, “Confidence is the stuff that turns thoughts into action.” It’s is a belief in one’s ability to succeed—which, in turn, stimulates that action..to become more confident, women need to stop thinking so much and just act…confidence accumulates through hard work, through success, and yes, even through failure.” 


Are YOU willing to take the risk to blossom? 

If it meant you could feel successful, fulfilled, and in total alignment--mind-body-and-soul--every day going forward for the rest of your life, would it be worth it? 

If so, join us in the Lotus Woman Rising community where I host: 

  • complementary mini-courses each month
  • #soothingsundaysessions--a townhall like experience where community members come together via Zoom and we stream into the FB group via LIVE to discuss important topics pertaining to personal & professional growth
  • a supportive community of women who believe in collaboration over competition 

I hope to see you there!

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